Behind Closed Doors…Where the true personalities are revealed!

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Have you ever met someone who seemed to be so nice…until you really get to know them? Have you ever been around a couple who appeared to be so happy…but occasional looks of aggravation or anger were exchanged when they did not think you were looking? Have you ever been around people who constantly criticize their spouse or significant other and everything that they do or say? Many people act a certain way around others or in public, then change when they are in the privacy of their own home or behind closed doors, wherever that may be. Some of these people may even be considered outstanding citizens in their community… however, behind closed doors, they may actually be a “Dr.Jekell and Mr. Hyde.” No one really knows what goes on behind closed doors. However, many signs can be identified if you know what to look for.
Many abusers especially pretend to be so nice or carefree around others then blow up when no one else is around them. These abusers are so difficult to identify because they appear to be so happy, caring, or loving in the presence of others. One way to identify them is to watch the responses of their spouses, significant others, or people closest to them, including children. Only these victims know the truth and await the consequences of any anger or frustration that may have been triggered. Do these victims appear nervous? Do these victims pull away? Are they very quiet? Do they avoid eye contact? So many subtle signs can be revealed…if we take the time to watch. These victims become fearful or apprehensive as they await the possible verbal, emotional, or physical abuse that may occur when they get “behind closed doors” away from the eyes and ears of others. The true personalities of these abusers become revealed when no one is around to witness their explosive reactions. Unfortunately, many of these abusers do not even consider themselves abusive…

Luke 8:17 (NKJV)


For nothing is secret that will not be revealed, nor anything hidden that will not be known and come to light.”

Prayer:  Lord, I thank You that You see everything and nothing is hidden from You. I pray that You expose the abuses of this world and that everything done in darkness will be brought to the light in Jesus’ name… Amen.

18 thoughts on “Behind Closed Doors…Where the true personalities are revealed!

  1. Thank you for taking the time to read my poem, “pending Time”, I pray you freedom from violence for a lifetime and that your dreams will become ones of beauty and end in safe and restful sleep.

  2. Powerful…light dispels darkness

    Dispel means to rid one’s mind of, to cause to separate and go in various directions

    God’s light helps us and drives darkness out of our minds and lives.

    • Thanks Deborah for your continued encouragement. It’s amazing that once a person steps back from their own life, these signs become evidenced. I did not realize it when I was in it but I see it in others now.

  3. Unfortunately abusers manifest after marriage often times. Although they do show signs leading up to marriage. But are we seeing the red flags and ignoring them, ‘buying into the lie that they will get better, it’s a matter of commitment.’ Or do we see those red flags and don’t want to believe that he/or she is not right for me. Because if we continue down the wrong path, we will pay a heavy price for disobeying the Lord.

    “SINGLE CHILDREN OF GOD listen: This is why it is so vitally important to have a real relationship with God first before dating, before marriage so you can hear the literal of voice of Jesus Christ as promised in John 10:14-16: “I am the good shepherd; and I know My sheep, and am known by My own. As the Father knows Me, even so I know the Father; and I lay down My life for the sheep. And other sheep I have which are not of this fold; them also I must bring, and they will hear My voice; and there will be one flock and one shepherd.”

    PRAY! SEEK the Lord seriously until you get a real clear answer. Seek Him always in everything both small and great. Seriously give your heart soul and body completely over to the Lord Jesus Christ as a righteous and clean temple of the Living God, Holy and pleasing to Him, baptized and filled with His Holy Spirit. Asking Him to reveal all darkness that maybe hidden in relationship in the now and in the future. For He is the light of the world and all things are exposed by His literal presence (John 3:19-21). And let the Lord Jesus Christ lead and guide you into His perfect will and to the future spouse that He so designed for you to have. He is our Shepherd and this is what He has promised in: Psalm 23:1-3. And then HEED to the Voice of the Lord and do what He says when He tells you “No.” Because He is Omniscient: He knows all things. He knows the end of all chapters of life before it ever began. Before He ever laid the foundations of the world He knew us. And we need to trust in the LORD and know that He knows better than we ourselves. 2 Corinthians 6:14-18.”

    This Meassage is for someone or possibly many single Christians that will visit this site soon. I pray sister that you relay this message, the Lord Is speaking

    • Amen… I totally receive this message and pray for the many people who have not learned this yet. I regretted for many years that I had not heeded the warning signs and I thank God now that I am so lost in Him, that only through God will my future spouse find me… for both of us will have to be rooted in grounded in love and totally submissive to God.
      It is time for KINGDOM MARRIAGES… where the Power of Christ is manifested as these marriages walk out the path that God orchestrates for them…
      I totally love this and God just gave me the word, “Relationships” this morning which I wrote a posting on. This gives me confirmation that God wants to talk about relationships and intimacy with Him. Do you mind if I copy and paste as a blog posting, giving you credit, or did you want to use it and I reblog from you?? Thank you so much Brother Steve!! A prophetic word to many, including myself, as I wait upon the Lord, seeking His will for my life!! I just wrote about intimacy with God and hope you check it out because this prophetic word fits it perfectly. I could make it a part 2 or just reblog!! Thank you again, my brother..

      • Do what the Lord Jesus speaks and direct you to do sister.

        Too many of us including myself have tried to rap Almighty God’s will around our own finger in relationships, and that cannot ever be. It doesn’t work that way. It’s His will or not at all. The LORD wants us to be happy and by applying His Word to our lives daily to be sensitive in the guidance of the LORD all the days of life. And as a result of this inner happiness and completeness that is only found in Jesus Christ, we then can be totally effective and make an impact on earth in the name of Jesus Christ by the power of His Holy Spirit without hindrances great and small by the will of Almighty God our Father. Imagine if single Christians Get a hold of this revelation and lives it. Oh the mighty power of God would spring forth in marriage where the husband and wife are a team in ministry being in one mind and one body in one accord in Jesus name and from the power of His Holy Spirit with the right spouse that has designed and brought together His way under His will.

        Lord Jesus Commanded His disciples go out proclaim the Gospel in 2’s Matthew 10

      • Wow… This is just what I was talking about today!! I knew that I needed to post more about this subject and was going to post an essay from an unknown author that I received when I was so broken. It says just what the word you gave me basically says and I have held onto that for many years as I wrapped myself in a cocoon with God’s loving arms around me. The vision that I just saw today was like a million pieces of me spread all over and He has put each piece back to make me whole again. I know that I wait on Him, totally trusting Him with my life, with my future. I will also relay this to my children because up to this prophetic word, it has only been mom telling them about this and discussing what I received in my heart many years ago.
        I have felt that God was bringing Divine connections for Secret Angel Ministry and you have spoken into the lives of many of the broken who follow this blog. I feel that I am supposed to give you my email is which is I appreciate you speaking into the lives of many others who needed to hear this. I know that I have to share this and if you don’t mind, will make it a posting for tomorrow.. Many blessings again…

    • Brother Steve, I have to tell you that this word was in perfect timing with what I have been feeling since I heard Him tell me “Relationships”. I have cried and re-read this message several times. I have told my children this. I have discussed this with others. I was actually speaking to a friend about this same word probably as you were probably receiving it. Yes, I know several people who need to hear this word now and will relay it. I knew that I needed to speak more about intimacy with God as I stated in my posting “Relationships…The Word for Today” and this is perfect for a continuation…AN ACTUAL PROPHETIC WORD FROM GOD FOR SINGLES… WOW… God is so good and I see Him orchestrating my life everyday as I totally trust Him with my life, listening to His voice and walking in obedience. I will wait on your decision but would like to post this tomorrow as a continuation of my posting today…
      Thank you!! Thank you!!! May God bless you!

      • Highly recommend a book by Dr. Myles Monroe called Waiting and Dating. Dr. Monroe provides biblical truths and adds his counseling expertise to shed light on ways single believers can prepare for a marriage that is made in heaven and that will stand the test of time. There are many other books by Dr. Monroe on preparing for marriage. As a single Christian woman for the last 31 years, I have found gaining knowledge, insight and wisdom from others has been greatly beneficial. Scripture tells us that God’s people perish for a lack of knowledge. And, we know God raises up His army to equip the saints.

      • Amen.. Thanks my sister!! I pray that many will see these comments by you and Brother Steve and realize the importance of intimacy with God and trusting Him to provide everything…including spouses!

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