But He Said That He Had Changed! (2 Corinthians 5:17)


So many people are fooled (or should I say–deceived) by those same old words… “I have changed!”.
I have heard so many times, “He said that he had changed!!! or He said that it would never happen again!!!” However, many words are worthless at times. The old saying is that “actions speak louder than words” and that is true, especially when it comes to telling how someone really is or someone’s true personality.
What someone does says a lot more than the mere words out of his mouth. He may say that he loves you, but if he yells and screams and hits and abuses you, is it really love? If he says that he will never hit you again, then gets mad and hits the wall or kicks the dog…has he really changed? Many hints are actually revealed in a persons actions, however, many of these are ignored…because we want to believe the best. We want to believe that someone who we love has changed! We want to believe that things will be better.

You see, I always wanted to believe my spouse. He would get angry, blow up, and then he would treat me better.  He told me many times that he would change. He  once began showing more compassion, romance, telling me that he loved me,.. until he revealed his affair and told me that he only pretended to love me.  I was totally deceived. I believed his lies.  When I looked back, I realized that he never changed. I realize now that the key to real change is God. Only God can purify your heart, And only God knows who is truthful and who is not. God is never deceived.

2 Corinthians 5:17

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”

Prayer: Lord, I thank You that You know each heart and that You have revealed that it is only through You that we truly change. It is only You that can deliver us from our old habits and abuses and make us new creations. I ask you to protect your children, deliver them from evil, and open their eyes to receive You… in Jesus’ name… Amen

12 thoughts on “But He Said That He Had Changed! (2 Corinthians 5:17)

      • Thanks for your continued support Ms. Doris.. I looked back and I think that you were my first follower on my blog when I started in May. You have been an inspiration to me from my first day and I am eternally grateful for your loving and compassionate encouragement as we both reach out to other victims to help them overcome as we have… May God bless you my friend….

  1. Love your openness and honesty! It is beautiful. I pray that you will help many people who are in abusive relationships. I think of the alcoholic who comes home, beats up his wife, and yells at the kids. For weeks in a row, then says, “I’m sorry baby, I won’t ever do that again” and the wife takes him back over and over. Like in co-dependency. Appreciate your heart.

  2. I need a way out in my horrible situation. It has been years of lies and pain from a man I thought would change when I have been just a victim aside my son in which we both already lost years of a peaceful home. I know God heals but the pain and lack of being even able to provide for my son by being controlled has us trapped. We need a peaceful home to regain our strength with peace. Can you give me guidance as I have no parents to go to and God through my spirit has protected us but show us light- where to go, right people to ask for help. Please.

    • Stacie, I am so sorry that you are going through this. I pray for you right now that God will give you peace and guide your path. I suggest that you go to your local woman’s shelter. I have also attached the National Domestic Violence Hotline and website. They can give you guidance whether how to get out now or plan an escape. The women shelters will provide legal aid free of charge and help you.They are a key liink in helping women escape. The DV Hotline can also tell you where to find your nearest one and help you get there. Please call as soon as possible. I will continue praying for you and thank God that He will move quickly in your favor. Please keep in touch and God bless you Stacie

      The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).


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