At about 2am this morning, I published a post that is directly related to this subject. It is called FEAR, PTSD, and the Abused Woman. https://secretangelps911.wordpress.com/2013/05/31/fear-ptsd-and-the-abused-woman-2-tim-17/ I had no idea that the subject of the daily prompt would be FIGHT OR FLIGHT. So, here goes:
Fight or Flight? I can tell you that it depends…. It depends on the person’s level of brokenness. It depends on where they are with the level of fear that they exist in. To “fight” means to stand up for yourself against your attacker whether verbally or physically. To “flight” means to run, get away, escape, seek safety, etc. It is a matter of survival!
Well, I can tell you that most victims of abuse really don’t have much “fight” left in them. They have been broken, beat down–emotionally and physically. Maybe in the initial stages of abuse, the “fight” was still in them. But, it does not take getting attacked many times before they learn to either FLIGHT or NOT FIGHT! Those who “flight” in the early stages are probably better off. Those who stay and “not fight” may be continually beat down to a level of brokenness that they are almost paralyzed with the fear of being attacked.
Now, this is where the two posts connect. That level of fear in most cases is actually a PTSD, where victims cringe even at the sound of a simple noise that triggers a memory or something that returns a level of fear that is beyond explanation, unless you have been there. These victims live with this fear and a “not fight” mode until something happens and the “FLIGHT” mode is restored. My FLIGHT kicked in only after a serious death threat. My PTSD went back a whole lot further than the death threat. It was what kept me in the that situation longer than I should have been, while always praying for it to get better… Well, it did not get better until God rescued me from my abuser…. when I did not even realize that I was being abused any longer and had accepted that the abuse was normal…. Sad, but so true…