Abuses of this world, part 3: Physical Abuse

physical abuse
As previously blogged, I have felt that I am supposed to do a series on the abuses of this world.
The last two days, I have written “Abuses of this world, part 1: Verbal Abuse… https://secretangelps911.wordpress.com/2013/06/06/abuses-of-this-world-part-1-verbal-abuse/
and “Abuses of this world, part 2: Emotional Abuse. https://secretangelps911.wordpress.com/2013/06/07/abuses-of-this-world-part-2-emotional-abuse/

Today, I will continue this series on abuse. The problem with abuse is that it is hidden; it is done behind closed doors; it is done in total secret. The only ones who know that it is happening in most cases is the abuser and the victim. However, as previously mentioned, there are times that the victim does not even realize that they are being abused. This is because part of the abusers methods is “mind control.”
With the verbal and emotional abuses, the victim is so beat down mentally and emotionally that they do not think that it is abnormal behavior. It becomes normal. It becomes accepted. It becomes part of who they are and almost expected. They become the peace makers, always apologizing for things that is not their fault or walking on egg shells to avoid confrontation. Even when the abuse becomes physical, many times the victim is still apologizing for whatever they did to upset their attacker… because in many cases, the abuser is the one that they love the most, whether a spouse or a boyfriend.
So even when the situation turns into violence, what do we find that happens? Most often, the victim hides the bruises from everyone, keeps the secret, and refuses to seek legal assistance because “he said that it would never happen again.” These victims in most cases have been so “brainwashed”, that they can not see the cycle of abuse that they are trapped in.

Now, let’s consider this question: What is Physical Abuse?
Physical abuse is any unwanted, intentional contact with another person’s body. Physical abuse does not have to cause pain or leave any signs of contact like a bruise. However, it is still an unhealthy relationship with another person when this occurs.
Some examples of physical abuse include:
Biting, shaking, punching, kicking, scratching, pulling hair, pushing, throwing something at another person, grabbing a person, strangling, pulling another person, tearing clothing, grabbing clothing, hitting or smacking a person, using a knife, bat, gun or any other weapon in a threat and also, grabbing someone to prevent them from leaving or forcing them to leave. Also, forcing someone to have sex or perform any sexual act is also considered a physical abuse.
So you see, some of these abuses fall under several different types of abuse. Whatever is done, it is still abuse and still causes hidden wounds and brokenness to the victim. By this point, many victims do not feel that they deserve any better… But unfortunately, it is only when the bruises, black eyes and obvious signs of abuse show, that most people finally see that there is a problem and even recognize the person as a victim of abuse…

13 thoughts on “Abuses of this world, part 3: Physical Abuse

  1. Keep blogging as God leads. It’s so true that the abused walk on egg shells attempting to stave off an abusive attack. It’s also true that it’s so commonplace, it feels normal even when we know it surely isn’t.

    Pastor Sharon

    • thanks for the support and comments. I know that God gave me the song “I Believe” this morning as I was waking up for someone out there who needed to see that blog and the abuse blog and hear those words. There are so many who are hurt by the abuses of the world and even the church that they stray away from anything scriptural or biblical. I pray that they will get a glimmer of hope and a seed of belief and faith and develop a relationship with the One who rescued me… Thanks again for following!!

      • Good point that many have been abused spiritually. Legalism is one of the ways that is done. Legalism crowds out spiritual love.

        My age is showing, but I seem to remember Ed Ames singing “I Believe” as well. I hear a guy’s voice every time I hear the song in my head.

        Pastor Sharon

  2. That’s funny. I don’t know who that is but the voice that I hear was a woman but it was not Dolly. It seems that the song was sang for a pagent or something. But, there were not many videos to choose from.. Well, I just pray that whoever needed it, received it… Thanks again!!

  3. What you write is very honest and very beautiful. I would like to add a couple more to your list, they without essential money for toiletries, feminine hygiene products, clothes, hair cuts, and then tell you you’re ugly and should never be seen by the world. What my ex couldn’t physically take out on me he took out on my children, he doesn’t deserve them.

    • Thanks!! You are so right. One of the things that God had to show me was “financial abuse”. I always thought that financial abuse was when children took money from their elderly parents. But God showed me different… You can add that to your list of abuses. Now, if you suspect child abuse is occurring, you need to report it. Try to protect your children.As my children got older, they did not want to go see their dad. I kept records and recordings of everything that my children told me would happen when they were with my ex. I took them to counselors who recorded what they told them about their father. Eventually, I was able to get sole custody. It took a lot of prayer. Pray for your childlren. That God will open the doors that He wants them to go through and close and lock the doors that He wants them to avoid. We were amazed at how many times their father just had something come up and just did not want them for his turn. God protected us and rescued us…Seek Him with all your heart and soul and see what happens., I will be praying for you. ,,Psalm 91 and The Lord’s Prayer were my prayers…. and God answered me! God bless you and your children!!

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  5. it’s so true, by the time abuse usually becomes physical, the victim doesn’t even see the treatment as abuse. it’s sad, but it’s part of the “trap”. that you for your blogs, others need to know exactly how many levels of abuse are out there and how many levels of pain people can be hiding ❤

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