Today is Day 2 of October’s Domestic Violence Awareness Series.
Yesterday I posted Part 1: Verbal Abuse… so today, I will continue with part 2 of this abuse series…
Day 2 of the DV series: Emotional Abuse…
There are so many victims!! There are so many wounds! And, each wound on every victim leads to the same thing…a brokenness as wounds after wounds pile up on each person.
Now, many people use the word verbal abuse and emotional abuse interchangeably. However, emotional abuse is actually inclusive of verbal abuse, but adds another dimension of abuse. Not only is the victim torn down and beat down verbally, they are actually abused by the abusers actions…stopping short of laying hands on them which would go into physical abuse.
Isolating the victim.
Withholding love from the victim.
Ignoring the victim.
Silence treatment to the victim.
A “look” to the victim.
Not being involved in victim’s life.
Not accepting the victim’s opinion.
Showing no compassion to the victim.
Having victims “walk on eggshells.”
Reflecting emotions like anger or irritability without speaking.
In emotionally abusive relationhips, this abuse tends to happen every day which has more damaging effects than other abuses that do not occur every day. Part of the problem is that emotional abuse can be so underhanded or so sutle, that the victims begin to accept the behaviors as normal and does not even realize that they are being abused. Unlike just verbal where hurtful words are spoken and unlike physical abuse where the abuser becomes physically aggressive, emotional abuse can be totally unspoken and no actions involved. It is the nonspoken communication between abuser and victim that tears down the victim even more and has them “walking on eggshells” to avoid confrontation…. Again, I know! I walked on “eggshells” for years and apologized for millions of things that I did not do because of the anger projected from my abuser. But, most days, I still did not know that I was being abused…