Domestic Violence Day 11: Bullying

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For October’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I am continuing a series on the various abuses. Now, I will proceed with the next abuse: “Bullying…”

Bullying is defined as unwanted, assertive or aggressive behavior among children, teens, and even adults that involves a power imbalance, whether real or perceived. It includes spreading rumors, making threats, excluding someone from a group on purpose, as well as attacking someone, whether physically or verbally.

There are several types of bullying:

1. Verbal Bullying—includes teasing, taunting, name calling, inappropriate sexual comments, and threatening comments

2. Social Bullying—includes telling others not to be friends with someone, leaving someone out of activities on purpose, spreading rumors about someone, gossiping, embarrassing someone in public

3. Physical Bullying—includes hitting, kicking, spitting, pinching, tripping, pushing, taking and/or breaking things, and making mean or rude hand gestures

4. Cyber Bullying,—which we have already discussed–includes any harassing, tormenting, embarrassing, or threatening comments or lies/ gossip made by text messaging, Facebook, websites, voice-messaging, emails or any form of internet social media.

Kids learn from the actions of others, especially adults.  They watch how others manage stress and conflict as well as how they treat their friends, colleagues, and families. Many feel that verbal bullying is “nothing”.. however, words are very damaging to people and can affect their self-esteem and their decision-making in life.  Also, more people get away with verbal bullying because of the lack of proof that it was done. No physical contact may be made but the damaging effects are still there despite the lack of physical contact. Also, many parents do not consider their children “bullies” because they treat their children the same intimidating, harassing ways. They may also treat their spouses the same abusive way. This is how the cycle of abuse starts and continues…These abusive people are blind to the fact that they “bully” their own children and own families.  Education and exposure are keys to combating bullying and any abuse.

References:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying

stopbullying.gov

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17 thoughts on “Domestic Violence Day 11: Bullying

  1. I discussed my issues with my boyfriend/fiance with you on this blog a while ago. I do feel at times he beats me up verbally for both things I do wrong and things I might do wrong. I tend to fight back now; whereas before I’d just let him say what he wants to say. I did break up with him through a letter I left at his house, but he showed up at the place where I dance. He spoke from his heart and told me he’d do anything to keep our relationship. I said he’d have to agree to see a psychiatrist and a therapist with couples counseling. He’s already backing out on the psychiatrist thing. I am so certain a lot of his problems are chemical. He has all the highs and lows of bipolar disorder and is manic most of the time. I do love him and don’t want to break up with him. On the other hand, I gave his ring back because I wasn’t sure I could really commit myself to wanting to marry him. Any prayers would help! Thank you, always.

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  3. Thank you for sharing the types of bullying. It is sad to that we have to educate people in this area….wouldn’t it be a wonderful world if we all just showed compassion to one another?!

    I am sharing this blog post on my Facebook Page, Thoughts From The Porch. It is a page of encouragement, hope and faith sharing. I encourage you to come by and visit and soak in what is there and feel free to share a favorite thought, quote or story of hope and encouragment.

    Have a blessed weekend.
    April

  4. Yes so True Secret A, abuse comes in all forms even in ways we didn’t expect. I was threatened by a Blogger that she would pass on information that I had told her in confidence to other bloggers which she probably does but as she treats me so she is treating Jesus and we reap what we sow when we do evil, just the same as we do when we do good, I have prayed for her to come to her senses but it’s still her choice.

    I tried to warn her that her vindictiveness towards me because I had shared on her Blog something she did not agree with even though God tells us Himself that it is True, would in the end hurt her more than me. False teaching and evil gossip leads to bad emotions for those who propagate them, the same as those who listen and believe their lies, how do we know when gossip is evil, because it is never up front, it’s back stabbing and I even asked her how would she feel if I did the same as she had threatened to do but sadly they see no wrong in what they are doing and even justify it.

    So how do I handle it , as God tells us to, I forgive her when I see evidence of her evil gossip, hurt people hurt people, she is hurting and can’t handle it, why because she believes in her heart that it’s God hurting her, which is what Satan wants her to believe, Cults major on this teaching because they don’t understand that God is Love and can do no evil.

    Christian Love from us both- Anne

    • Those words are so true…hurting people hurt people. But the Word is very clear about sowing and reaping. I am sorry that this has happened to you and pray that God will bring healing and restoration. All that we can do is pray for those who come against us and give them to God to take care of the situations. Only He can change hearts. I pray that He will protect you against all attacks of the enemy. Blessings to you Anne!

  5. You are an angel. Your work is greatly appreciated and needed. As a victim of childhood abuse and a survivor I am grateful to see a blog shedding light on the pain of so many.

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