Domestic Violence Day 13: Workplace Abuse or Workplace Bullying

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For October’s Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I am continuing a series on the various abuses. Now, I will proceed with the next abuse:   “workplace abuse” or “workplace bullying”.

The Workplace Bullying Institute’s definition of workplace bullying is “repeated, health-harming mistreatment of victims by one or more perpetrators that takes one or more of the following forms:
Verbal abuse, offensive conduct or behaviors (including nonverbal) which are threatening, humiliating, or intimidating, and work interference or sabotage which prevents work from getting done.
In other words, workplace abuse or bullying is mistreatment severe enough to compromise a targeted worker’s health, jeopardize her or his job and career, and strain relationships with friends and family. It is a campaign of interpersonal destruction at the hands of a coworker or boss.”

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“Workplace bullying is driven by the abusers need to control the targeted individual, requires consequences for the targeted individual, and escalates to involve others who side with the bully, either voluntarily or through coercion. It is similar domestic violence at work, where the abuser is on the payroll. These behaviors include psychological abuse, psychological harassment, personal harassment, and emotional abuse at work.”

“Being bullied at work most closely resembles the experience of being a battered spouse. The target is kept close to the abuser by the nature of the relationship between them like husband to wife or boss to subordinate or co-worker to co-worker. However, where school-age bullying usually affects the weakest, workplace bullying is different. Most victims of workplace abuse are veteran workers who others turn to for guidance. They are better liked and have empathy for people, even their bullies. Colleagues, customers, and management, with exception to the bully, appreciate the contributions that the victims bring to the workplace. These victims are ethical and honest. Some are whistle-blowers who expose fraudulent practices. They are not schemers or con artists. Most of these victims are people with a desire to help, heal, teach, develop, nurture others. These victims do not like confrontation and do not respond to aggression with aggression. Consequently, the abusers manipulate these situations for their own abusive advantage. Unfortunately, many of these victims of workplace abuse or bullying, lose their jobs due to the manipulation of their abusers…”

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26 thoughts on “Domestic Violence Day 13: Workplace Abuse or Workplace Bullying

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  2. Thank you for coming onto my blog today, I was actually going to tidy up that post that you liked 🙂 this particular form of abuse is frightening as I have been a victim of it myself on and off over the last three years. The abuser does it ever so subtlety and when I confronted her on it, it made me more and more nervous. I spoke to my supervisor about it who did very little so I went one above and both the abuser and the supervisor were either given warnings or something which has stopped it for the meantime… fortunately for me its a temp job while I am studying towards my degree but even so I have found how it has left me drained, tired, and at times not wanting to go and work. She has since been told not to speak to me unless it is necessary, not very good when you are working with kids…I wish more companies would have a zero tolerance policy where bullying is not tolerated. As a result I do not have the same respect for the supervisor as I once did after being told initially to ‘Buck up’. You can only take so much….

    • Hi. I am glad you liked my posting and I totally understand what you are saying. I have also been a victim of workplace abuse where another supervisor knew but did nothing to help me. I pray that God will protect and vindicate those victims who suffer job loss and economic hardships because of this abuse.. Many blessings to you!

      • Thank you and many blessings to you too :-). How did you deal with the abuse yourself, did you go one step higher like I did? I often wonder if I should talk to her and find out what is really going on but her husband committed suicide a few years ago and that in itself says alot. I also wonder whether she came from a family where the parents had too many other kids to take notice of her so she bullied to get attention and why she comes across as rather cold and demeaning at times…

      • Well, I reported the harassment to another supervisor who actually saw what was happening and told me “… is abusing you”. She did nothing to stop it and I loss my job. I am still dealing with the fallout from that situation but God knows the truth and God is a God of vengeance and restoration. If you have an integrity hot line, I would call that. You may want to carry a tape recorder on you in case you need. The laws vary state to state about workplace abuse. I just know that it is happening more and more and is very devastating. I will keep you in prayer…

      • Thank you, unfortunately if I carried a tape recorder around with me, it would no doubt fall out of my pocket as I work with children and are pretty involved in their activities. I am hoping by the time I finish my studies at the end of next year to have found a new job too so fingers crossed on that one. I am very sorry that you are still dealing with your pain from your workplace and to loose your job too over it must have been a terrible situation to deal with on top of it all. Here in New Zealand we can talk to a union or to someone higher or even get the Dept of Labour to intervene, I actually had a similar situation many years ago and spoke to a lawyer about it and they ended up getting me a small compensation for the wrongful dismissal that happened in that job. It is terrible how others can just treat others and think it be OK. Thank you for your feedback and I hope that you will recover soon.

      • Thanks so much for your support. I just keep praying for God knows the truth and what was done in darkness will be brought to the Light. We all have to answer for our actions and that includes those who watch and do not speak up. I will be praying for you and a resolution to this problem that you are having at work. May God bless you my friend!

      • Keep in touch. I believe that what comes around will go around and you are right, what God sees is the truth and the darkness that we have suffered will be released one day into light. I have signed up for your page as I know these sorts of people should not be tolerated at any cost. Keep strong or as we say here in NZ “KIa Kaha” (Key ah Ka huh) 🙂 🙂

      • Thank you so much Kiwi.. I looked it up and found that it means “Be strong”. Beautiful. Thanks. The thought that came to me is “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. Through all of the abuse, I have had to hold onto Him. Thank you for following and your encouraging words. Many blessings to you my new New Zealand Friend!!!

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  4. This is a huge issue. It seems that bullies pick on the people that need their jobs the most (single moms, sole providers or people that can’t get work elsewhere easily). They feel they can make their lives miserable because they can’t afford to leave their jobs. It’s sad.

    • Yes, it is a huge problem and growing everyday. People need their jobs and there are many deceptive employers out there behind the scenes using schemes to get people out of jobs for their own benefit. I pray that God will expose the schemes done in darkness and protect the innocent.


  6. I suffered workplace bullying that was so bad I was suicidal. I was deliberately targeted by managememt and several coworkers who were bullies. Eventually I was fired from the job because I refused to quit. The company continued to harass me even after by contesting my unemployment claim. At least now I no longer have to deal with them. I thought suing the company but decided to just be done and not let them have any more impact on me. So thank you for writing about this. It is largely ignored and people don’t want to say anything because they don’t want to be targets themselves.

    • I totally understand. I am also a victim of this abuse that many do not talk about because of fear for their own jobs. Other employees see it and run the other way for fear of retaliation against them. This is a huge problem that causes many good employees to suffer needlessly due to the abuse of their supervisors. I pray that eyes will be opened to the increasing workplace bullying and abuse and that God will vindicate these innocent victims.

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  8. Havent you caught on? The government is annexing people from work like this and it only gets worse. But you words of kindness are well received. I think there is a way to start investigations with the American Civil Liberties Union. This is a much more related and serious “secret” problem, then you know. Is your life full of coincidences or is it paranioa. God be with you, and may we all find eachother in humility and kindness.

    • Yes, you are right. It is a serious “secret” problem. Much abuse is done behind closed doors in workplaces and many employees suffer at the hands of their employers. I pray that all their deception and abuse will be exposed. God bless you!!

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