Domestic Violence Day 22: Partner Rape

Accordng to RAINN, Intimate Partner Rape is defined as sexual acts committed without a person’s consent and/or against a person’s will when the perpetrator is the individual’s current partner (married or not), previous intimate partner, or co-habitat. This type of rape is usually not considered “real rape” by society.  Most of society has preconceived notions that ‘real rape’ happens by a crazy stranger, violent, in dark, isolated places like parks, woods, etc.  Most of society also thinks that a rape victim must be a virgin of unquestionable character. However, just because a woman has previous consensual sex does not mean that she can not say NO. Many feel that a woman does not have the freedom to cancel her consent. but everyone always have the right to say NO. 

There are 3 types of intimate partner rape according to RAINN. These include:

  1. Battering rape–   An experience including both physical and sexual violence. Some may experience physical abuse during the sexual assault. Others may experience sexual assault after a physical assault as an attempt to “make up.”
  2. Force-only rape– motivated by a perpetrator’s need to demonstrate power and maintain control. Therefore, he/she asserts his/her feelings of entitlement over his/her partner in the form of forced sexual contact.
  3. Obsessive/Sadistic rape– involves torture and perverse sexual acts. Such rape is characteristically violent and often leads to physical injury.

The emotional and physical injuries include lacerations, soreness, injuries to the vaginal and anal areas, bruising, torn muscles, vomiting, broken bones, black eyes, injuries caused by weapons, miscarriages, stillbirths, and contraction of sexually transmitted diseases.  It also includes uncontrolled anxiety, shock, intense fear, depression, suicidal ideation, betrayal, and post-traumatic stress disorder.

Intimate partner rape survivors usually have repeated incidences of rape compared to stranger rape victims which means that they are more likely to have longer lasting physical and psychological consequences or injuries. Unfortunately, most of society considers wives and girlfriends in intimate relationships to not be rape-able which actually permits more sexual violence to be perpetrated against them.Some are in very violent relationships with battery and torture. Some are in respectful relationships where people would not suspect any coercion or battery. Either way, these rapes occur by men who these victims love or have loved.  It is no wonder that even the victims of intimate partner rape are unable to name it what it is…rape.


11 thoughts on “Domestic Violence Day 22: Partner Rape

    • I totally understand how you feel. I thought I was crazy too. I could not understand how someone that you loved could turn so violent. Unfortunately, the violence worsens as we try to break away…

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