Bullying: A Father’s Heart-Felt Plea

This was a response that I received from my posting yesterday, entitled  Bullying… Not so Cute., and I felt that I should share with my readers. This plea is from a father named Jeff…

Jeff says:
“My son is an A student in advanced education in NC. He has been bullied to the point where he came home crying and didn’t want to go back to school. Of course my heart sunk; my son whom loves to go to school, came home and walked into the room, head hung low and his face covered.This is not how my son is, so I knew something was wrong. I asked him “son what’s the matter” he lowered his head even further and covered his face completely and began to cry. He was so humiliated and hurt,he could barely tell me what was wrong. My son whom I have been raising alone since he was 2 due to my wife’s untimely death, along with his little brother and 2 sisters. I moved us here because of the terrible bullying going on in the school district in Delaware. What are parents doing these days? My God where is the love these parents should be giving their children…hate is NOT funny. Hurting others is wrong. Love begins in the home, with the parents. Our children are the future. It is not funny to teach your child such hateful things. Parents, love, compassion, understanding, guidance in a positive direction is what you should be teaching your child, not tough guys win type attitude. How terrible is mankind’s future, please consider a different way. Love your children, talk to them like human beings, teach them compassion. We are all human,no one person deserves to suffer. Stop now and think, do I love my child? It is easy to say “yes, I love my child” and another to show it. Please, the future depends on you. It starts in the home. And then when the flower blooms, will it shine beauty on the world? It is up to you parent.”

You can find Jeff at his blog, Class Bullies: No one should have to endure being bullied!  at http://jeffkenneth55.wordpress.com/

A cry in the Wilderness.

stop bullying now!.

26 thoughts on “Bullying: A Father’s Heart-Felt Plea

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    • Thanks Barbara… I really appreciate your encouraging words. Bullying leads to so many broken lives and I pray that parents will realize that they can make a difference. Thanks again and many blessings to you!

  2. Heart heart heart!! I hope that father & son manage to get the situation sorted, hopefully the school are behind them. If I ever found out that my child was a bully, I would be ashamed and would move to instantly rectify that behaviour! May that keep strong for their future x

  3. Unfortunately, bullying is very much commonplace within our society today—in schools, in extra-curricular activities, sporting events, clubs, place of employment, churches, and in the community. It is not always other children either, as adults our actions speak louder than words. Hate is all around us. Jeff, my heart goes out to you and your son. Being an individual who has dealt with adversity and being bullied, I can relate to how your son feels. Please encourage him to seek help and support, and to be open with you despite what issues he may be experiencing. Continue to let him know that he is loved, and that you support him. Children listen, and will remember!

    • You are so right. Yes, bullying takes place in all areas of society and it is wrong wherever it occurs. I have also been bullied and experienced the brokenness from it. No one should be bullied. No one should be abused. As parents, we have a chance to change this by leading by example to treat everyone with love and respect.
      I love your message to Jeff. Unconditional love… it’s what we all need to express.
      May God bless you!!

  4. Reblogged this on Unveiling Hope and commented:
    My friends and followers, you know how I feel about bullying … please take a few moments and read Secret Angel’s post and the heartfelt comment left by a dad whose son is being bullied.

  5. Jeff’s story breaks my heart. I have seen the consequences that can happen even into adulthood to a person who was bullied, to the point that he took his own life. I pray that Jeff’s son will continue to lean on his Dad for guidance and to help him through these awful times. He is fortunate to have a Dad who cares.

    • I know. It broke my heart too that’s why I had to get permission to use it for a posting to get his message out. I have experienced the effects that bullying has on a person’s life so I pray for his son and all victims of bullying. Thanks for your kind comment. Blessings to you.

  6. hi angel,thanks so much for your help getting this out there like you did.

    my son is back in school,and he is doing good,he has his self respect back and no more torment from these bullies in school,The school took the proper measurements to end this now.And they did.his close friends stuck by him,the bullies were suspended and put into a bully registry.if it ever happens again,I will have them all arrested,the school knows it and now so do the parents of these billies.school has been better for him now.Once again thanks so much.I thought about keeping my blog up and writing little stories of my past experiences with people,but I’m not so sure they would be read or if people would even care to read or learn from them.this is an excellent site,keep up the good fight angel,you’re a great person. 🙂

    • Praise God… Thank you for giving me an update. I had never heard about “bully registry” and would like to hear more about it. You have so much to share and I want to encourage you to continue with your blog. It is not easy to get started but people will start to follow. Go to their sites and comment on theirs and follow them then they will follow you. Link up with other bullying prevention sites or abuse sites. I looked at your blog postings and immediately see a problem. You are leaving them all in “uncategoriezed”. You need to make categories like
      1. Bullying
      2. Abuse
      3. Children
      4. Death (of a spouse or loved one)
      5. Life
      Make these categories and then make tags for each posting. No one looks for the categorized entries. Those who have those categories and tags will find your blog on their readers. Go to your “freshly pressed” and put the tags that you want to follow then their blog postings will show up in your reader. No one is seeing your postings unless they go to the categorized tag. Hope this helps. You have too much to share as a single dad raising 4 children plus the loss of the “love of your life”. You see, many of us have been broken by abuses and to read about a man so devoted to his wife is so refreshing and gives hope to many single women who have been broken by man. Someone had to help me too when I got started. So please think about continuing. I will be praying for you and your children. Many blessings to you, my friend.

    • Jeff, sorry to hear your story. As a father of a son that was bullied and a person that was bullied in grade school, I understand the pain associated with all the anger. The power now lies in all of us. We must use the power of the “pen” as they use to say and help educate our society on the horrible subject. We must instigate “hope” in our young people. Thank you.

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