Teen Dating Violence Awareness…

Teen Dating Violence Awareness…
Patterns of violence don’t just suddenly happen when the marriage begins. Many warning signs occur while dating, leading to a high incidence of teen dating violence. February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month and I want to help to bring awareness of this growing problem. So many teenagers are desiring love but truly do not know what love is… Love should never hurt. Love is respect, kindness, gentleness… never abusive and violent.

Warning Signs:
Checking your cell phone or email without permission
Constantly putting you down
Extreme jealousy or insecurity
Explosive temper
Isolating you from family or friends
Making false accusations
Mood swings
Physically hurting you in any way
Possessiveness
Telling you what to do
Repeatedly pressuring you to have sex

This video is an example of the warning to look for in communicating with an abuser. Just like domestic violence in households, Teen Dating Violence is all about control and manipulation.

If you need help or have any questions, please contact Love is Respect.org at

http://www.loveisrespect.org/ or call or text to :

13 thoughts on “Teen Dating Violence Awareness…

  1. Thank you for sharing this. Why don’t they teach this stuff in the high schools? Most people find this stuff out way too late. Many have come from broken homes and they find someone that acts like their parent. They think, “This is just the way it is supposed to be.” Such a shame we cannot jump into each school and show them they are wrong. We can only be a lighthouse guiding people to safety. The lighthouse cannot jump into the water and grab a boat, steering it away from the rocks. The boats have to follow the light given. Meghan

    • Amen.. You are so right Meghan. The brokenness of our past allow us to accept these wrongs as normal and it only leads to more brokenness. I write about this in my book. So many of us are so starving for attention and love as youth that we settle for things and ignore warning signs. I pray that many more youth will realize that they deserve so much better and turn from their ways. I pray for a revival of the youth that God will raise up a new generation to seek Him and serve Him. I love what you said, the lighthouse cannot jump into the water and grab the boat… I pray that God will grab then and bring them back on the right path. Thanks again and many blessings to you…

  2. Thank you for sharing this very important message Secret A, I can’t remember having been abused by a Boyfriend except when a few left me and ignored me. As I shared with you before my first husband was very abusive but he had also been very abused as a child like me, I had compassion for him and so did not find it hard to forgive him.

    Only God’s Love which we ask for is complete, worldly fleshy love does not fulfill our deeper needs , because it takes, God’s Love gives.

    Christian Love from both of us – Anne.

    • Amen… Love what you said… worldly flesy love takes but God’s Love gives. So true. Please join me in prayer for the youth of today. Thanks and many blessings to you, my sister!

  3. [ Smiles ] I think that someone should put these warning signs on a pamphlet and distribute them in schools, churches and on sidewalks.

    Learning those signs that you mentioned above could reduce the number of teen-dating abuse significantly!

    • I totally agree as well as adult domestic violence. Many of these warning signs get ignored then only progress into domestic violence in homes and child abuse. It’s sad but it is definitely a cycle that needs to be broken. Thanks for your support. Blessings to you!

  4. Wow, this was an eye opener to me. I realized that the last long term boyfriend I had had 8 of these symptoms. He was so good in so many ways but so bad in many others. He still thinks I am going to return to him and marry him. He is now turning to God and although I am happy for this I am not willing to subject myself to his manipulation. He has apologized for how he treated me but that does not mean that I need to open the door back up to him to enter and wreak havoc on my soul again.
    Excellent post Secret Angel – A real eye opener! I can not say enough to thank you for breaking the character of abuse down into fragments to make us all more aware. Love you from the bottom of my heart!

    • Thank you so much my sister!! I only wish that I would have known the warning signs too when I was a teenager and someone would have warned me to save me from a 20+ year marriage with abuse… not that I probably would have listened. So many teens and adults are so hungry for love and affection that they settle for less than they should and “excuse” the abusive behaviors. These abusive traits only seems to increase as the relationship progresses especially into marriage and children, etc. This cycle of abuse has to be broken. Thanks Gracie for your continued support. Love you, my sister!!

  5. Love this; at the beginning of the year I spent a day in the hospital with a teenager who is daughter of someone close. She just turned 17 in November and was in delivery for her first child. Guy who got her pregnant is in his early 20’s (currently overseas) and as I sat there with her I had to practice all level of self control. She was so proud of her baby; she had gained some weight; she video cam the father and all he could respond with was “don’t gain any more weight now, I don’t want a roly poly”. If it is possible to get hot flashes in rage I did that day.
    Saying that to say, education is definitely needed as I see that as potential abuse:))

    • Wow… Yes, I can totally understand your feelings. This is absolutely horrible to say to someone who just gave birth to your child. Definitely a problem with the way that he talks to her. Then there is the problem of ages. There are laws that vary in each state regarding “statutory rape” laws. If she was 16 when she got pregnant by someone in his early 20’s, I would have been checking some laws. I will be praying for her. It sounds like she will need a lot of support. Thanks for sharing. Yes, much more education is needed. Our youth need to realize that they deserve much better treatment and do not have to “settle” for hurtful and abusive comments. Blessings to you and your friends….

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