With so many becoming victims of the various abuses, sometimes we just need to post reminders of the warning signs to help people identify the signs and avoid these abusive relationships. Remember that many abusers can be very deceitful with their words, but their actions will speak louder than their words. Watch how they act. Do not be deceived.
Warning Signs of Abuse
The following questions ask you about your relationship. If you are not currently in a relationship, these are signs or “red flags” to assist people in identifying a potentially abusive person.
- Do you feel nervous around your partner?
- Do you have to be careful to control your behavior to avoid your partner’s anger?
- Do you feel pressured by your partner when it comes to sex?
- Are you scared of disagreeing with your partner?
- Does your partner criticize you, or humiliate you in front of other people?
- Is your partner always checking up on you or questioning you about what you do without your partner?
- Does your partner repeatedly and wrongly accuse you of seeing or flirting with other people?
- Does your partner tell you that if you changed, he or she wouldn’t treat you like this?
- Does your partner’s jealousy stop you from seeing friends or family?
- Does your partner make you feel like you are wrong, stupid, crazy, or inadequate?
- Has he/she ever scared you with violence or threatening behavior?
- Does he/she say, “I will kill myself if you break up with me” or “I will hurt/kill you if you break up with me”?
- Does he/she make excuses for the abusive behavior? For example: saying, “It’s because of alcohol or drugs,” or “I can’t control my temper,” or “I was just joking”?
- Do they check your cell phone or email without permission?
- Do they constantly put you down?
- Do they exhibit extreme jealousy or insecurity?
- Do they have an explosive temper?
- Do they isolate you from family or friends?
- Do they make false accusations?
- Do they have mood swings?
- Have they physically hurt you in any way?
- Do they exhibit possessiveness?
- Are they always telling you what to do?
You do not deserve to be abused. Create a safety plan or call someone to talk about your relationship. You may also want to contact the police or a local domestic violence center or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE.