RESCUED!! When I did not even know that I needed it!
One of the big problems with verbal and emotional abuse is that it is progressive. It happens mildly, jokingly, and infrequently at first and then it increases. It becomes more frequent and more severe, with moments of explosiveness. The explosive phases are followed by honeymoon phases where the abuser is apologetic and loving. This cycle continues and many victims become so accustomed to the verbal and emotional attacks that it sadly becomes acceptable. Their self-esteem gets lower and lower. This is exactly what happened to me…
Years of emotional, verbal, and other abuses led me to not expect any better for my life. I had always hoped for the best—but settled for much less. Even though many family members and friends saw the abuse, “abuse” was an unspoken word. Also, I did not even identify it as abuse. I accepted it as part of married life. I had vowed “for better or worse…for richer or poorer” and I was determined to do everything possible to make my husband happy, despite his abuses which included several adulterous affairs. I believed that marriage was forever. I did not realize that God does not expect you to live in those situations. God does not want you to be abused, and He allows for divorce in cases of adultery. The following scriptures refer to these situations…
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife (or her husband), except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman (or man) commits adultery.” (Matthew 19:9)
“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” (Colossians 3:19 NLT)
God did not make my husband abuse me or commit adultery. However, when my marriage fell apart, God orchestrated my steps as I leaned on Him to put the broken pieces of my heart and my entire life back together. He once spoke to me audibly. He answered my questions and made His Presence known in multiple ways. He told me that He had “rescued me from Egypt.” I then realized, that I did not even know that I was in “Egypt” or even needed “rescuing.” I had accepted my abusive situation…but God did not. God rescued me!!! And, what He did for me, He will do for others…
“Give justice to the poor and the orphan;
uphold the rights of the oppressed and the destitute.
4 Rescue the poor and helpless;
deliver them from the grasp of evil people.” Psalm 82:3-4
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3
“In your righteousness, rescue me and deliver me;
turn your ear to me and save me.” Psalm 71:2
Dear Lord, only You hear the cries of those wounded by the abuses of this world. You hear their pleas for help even when no words are spoken. You see the brokenness and the destruction caused by the hands and words of man. You see the deception hidden deep in the evil recesses of man’s hearts. Expose the abuse and the deception! We cry out to You and ask for deliverance of all victims from evil with total healing and restoration to all. Move expediently, Lord, on behalf of all the innocent and rescue them from their situations… in Jesus’ Name. Amen.
© Secret Angel and The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel, 2015.
More of Secret Angel’s story in her book,
The Walking Wounded: The Path From Brokenness to Wholeness…
now available in Kindle Edition on Amazon.com.