DV Awareness Day#20: Various Abuses– Which Have You Experienced?

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As I was thinking of the various abuses that so many of us have endured, I thought of providing a list and having people write which ones they have experienced. Too many people still think that verbal and emotional abuse is insignificant… but it is not. It is the forerunner that leads to the other abuses. Now I can tell you that there were times that I thought it would be easier to be hit than the constant verbal attacks. But no abuse is easy. No abuse is right. And it is only when we say, “enough is enough” and stand up to the abuses, that we can get the strength to find a way out and accept the abuse “no more”!

Abuses and their definitions:

Verbal abuse– negative comments spoken about or to the victim
Emotional abuse– control & manipulation with use of fear, humiliation, intimidation, guilt, coercion
Psychological abuse– controlling, terrorizing, & traumatizing victims verbally with acts, threats, or coercive tactics, leading to PTSD
Physical abuse– intentional and unwanted contact with victims
Sexual abuse–pressuring or coercing someone to do something sexually they don’t want to do
Cyber abuse or “digital abuse”– use of technologies to bully, harass, stalk or intimidate
Spiritual or religious abuse– spiritual harassment or humiliation. Misuse of religion for selfish means
Workplace abuse– Threats, intimidation, humiliations, or sabotaging one’s work with repercussions.
Professional abuse– taking advantage of clients or patient’s trust, including legal, medical, clergy
Financial abuse– controlling money to gain power or accumulating debt to negatively affect finances
Stalking– repeated following, watching, intimidating, or harassing of a victim over a period of time
Identity theft– unlawful use of a victim’s personal information to ruin credit or steal identities


Now, I have finally learned to never ask, “what else can go wrong?”— because the answer that we get will come through more trials and tribulations, more abuses. But, no matter what this world throws at us, God wants us to overcome and He will give us the strength to do it when we call on Him. I pray that more and more people will come to recognize abuse and realize that these abuses are not God’s plan for us. He has plans for good,  not for harm, to give us a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11) He wants healing and restoration for all… and we can’t get it if we are constantly being wounded by abuse.

© Secret Angel and The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel, 2016.

10 thoughts on “DV Awareness Day#20: Various Abuses– Which Have You Experienced?

  1. I appreciate your listing the different kinds of abuse, Angel. Many people, I fear, only think of physical abuse when they talk about this topic. I have encountered no physical abuse, but have dealt with two or three other kinds which are on the list, as many others have. It can be a nightmare with horrible consequences!

    Thanks for your help and encouragement in your work with abuse victims…


    • Thanks for sharing your experiences, Steve! I agree with you. Too many people only associate abuse with physical abuse… but abuse is so much more than just physical and happening more frequently with devastating consequences. Thanks for helping to bring awareness, my brother!

    • Yes, thanks for adding it. I was including it under professional abuse like medical, legal and clergy, but it does not have to be professional… but I can tell you from experience too that it is devastating to its victims. Thanks for sharing and God bless you, GodGirl!!

  2. Angel, While I whole heartily agree with eh pretext of this post I would not be doing my calling as an Apologist without pointing out the obvious that God does bring trials upon the righteous.

    God is sovereign and in control of all things. Nothing happens without his expressed permission, one only has to read the book of Job (Job 1:12) to understand that. Sometimes those trials are in the form of abuse(s) as you have listed here. We as believers duty is to do as you are doing (great job BTW) informing others, encouraging others and praying continually.

    When trail(s) (James 1:1-5) of abuse come knocking at our door we need to ask God to strengthen us to endure and that He be glorified.

    • Hi directorfsm! Yes, God does allow trials to be brought upon the righteous.He is always in control as our Father and Judge and has given us an Advocate advocating for us every day. But we also have an adversary searching to and fro for things to use against us (Job 2:2, 1 Peter 5:8). And, if Satan finds something even in our bloodline, he has a legal right to come against us and God will allow it including abuse. Now I know from experience that God does not want us abused and broken but will use it… “for all things work together for good for those who love the Lord and are called according to His purposes.”He has a plan and purpose for all of us and He wants us to overcome all obstacles, including every abuse, to walk in the fullness of what He wants us to do for His Kingdom. It’s all about Him, not us. Thanks for the encouraging words and God bless you!

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