As I was thinking of the various abuses that so many of us have endured, I thought of providing a list and having people write which ones they have experienced. Too many people still think that verbal and emotional abuse is insignificant… but it is not. It is the forerunner that leads to the other abuses. Now I can tell you that there were times that I thought it would be easier to be hit than the constant verbal attacks. But no abuse is easy. No abuse is right. And it is only when we say, “enough is enough” and stand up to the abuses, that we can get the strength to find a way out and accept the abuse “no more”!
Abuses and their definitions:
Verbal abuse– negative comments spoken about or to the victim
Emotional abuse– control & manipulation with use of fear, humiliation, intimidation, guilt, coercion
Psychological abuse– controlling, terrorizing, & traumatizing victims verbally with acts, threats, or coercive tactics, leading to PTSD
Physical abuse– intentional and unwanted contact with victims
Sexual abuse–pressuring or coercing someone to do something sexually they don’t want to do
Cyber abuse or “digital abuse”– use of technologies to bully, harass, stalk or intimidate
Spiritual or religious abuse– spiritual harassment or humiliation. Misuse of religion for selfish means
Workplace abuse– Threats, intimidation, humiliations, or sabotaging one’s work with repercussions.
Professional abuse– taking advantage of clients or patient’s trust, including legal, medical, clergy
Financial abuse– controlling money to gain power or accumulating debt to negatively affect finances
Stalking– repeated following, watching, intimidating, or harassing of a victim over a period of time
Identity theft– unlawful use of a victim’s personal information to ruin credit or steal identities
Now, I have finally learned to never ask, “what else can go wrong?”— because the answer that we get will come through more trials and tribulations, more abuses. But, no matter what this world throws at us, God wants us to overcome and He will give us the strength to do it when we call on Him. I pray that more and more people will come to recognize abuse and realize that these abuses are not God’s plan for us. He has plans for good, not for harm, to give us a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11) He wants healing and restoration for all… and we can’t get it if we are constantly being wounded by abuse.
© Secret Angel and The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel, 2016.