“You Don’t Have to Try to Change”

I just heard this song and it is a great message for many, especially our youth. So many people try to change themselves to please others, whether the way they look or even act. You don’t have to try to get others to like you.  You don’t have to change. Just be yourself… Continue reading

Domestic Violence Day 29: Victim Blaming

Victim-blaming  attitudes place the blame on the victim of a crime. Examples of victim-blaming in abusive relationships or rapes are: “She must have caused him to be abusive” or “she must have made him mad” or “she should not have worn that dress” or “she asked for it by getting drunk.” Victim-blaming attitudes criticize the victim and make it more difficult for them to come forward and report the crime. Continue reading

Domestic Violence Day 27: Prostitution

During this month of Domestic Violence Awareness, I have been writing daily postings providing information about the various abuses and domestic violence. Today I want to write one that many would not consider an abuse or a domestic violence, however, I propose that it is abuse or domestic violence that leads many to turn to this lifestyle… which is then filled with abuse and violence in itself.

Prostitution is the business or practice of engaging in sex in exchange for payment in money or other things of value. A person who engages in such sexual relations is called a prostitute or a sex worker. Continue reading

Domestic Violence Day 25: Statutory Rape

According to Wikipedia, “Statutory Rape” is defined as:

Sexual activity in which one person is below the age required to legally consent to the sexual behavior. Also it usually refers to adults engaging in sex with minor children under the age of legal consent. it is a generic term, and very few jurisdictions use the actual term “statutory rape” in the language of statutes. Continue reading

Domestic Violence Day 18: Child Sexual Abuse

“Child sexual abuse or child molestation is a form of abuse in which an adult or older adolescent uses a child for sexual stimulation.   Forms of child sexual abuse include asking or pressuring a child to engage in sexual activities (regardless of the outcome), indecent exposure (of the genitals, female nipples, etc.) to a child with intent to gratify their own sexual desires, or to intimidate the child, physical sexual contact with a child, or using a child to produce pornography.”(rainn.org and wikipedia.org) Continue reading

Abuser Magnet or Victim Mentality?

Have any of you ever felt like an abuser magnet or someone who just draws abusive men or women to you? Have you ever felt like you had “sucker” written across your forehead?  You see, these abusive men and women are manipulating, deceiving, and controlling. They know what characteristics to watch for in people to identify those who can be their next victim. I picture them like a spider weaving a huge spider web. They are predatory and bait unsuspecting victims into their traps. Continue reading