Avoiding Conflict…

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Avoiding conflict…
is what many of us do…
for our own protection…
and self-preservation too.
For we have encountered much…
and don’t want abuse anymore…
so we avoid the conflict…
and don’t open up that door.
Avoiding some in our pasts…
who have hurt us again and again… Continue reading

Beware of “Delusions of Grandeur”

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 Beware of “Delusions of grandeur”…
which is the superiority that some believe…
but it is only a delusion…
and used to manipulate and deceive.
For some with delusions of grandeur…
believe their “stories” are grand…
and used to build themselves up falsely…
like upon a pedestal they stand.
And many abusers use this…
as a tactic to trick and manipulate…
for victims don’t know it’s a delusion…
nor realize the truth or lies to navigate.
And most narcissistic abusers… Continue reading

Where Do The Children Belong?

As I think of some friends tonight who have fought to protect their children/ grandchildren from abusive parents, I just want to repost this message as I pray that they will have Kingdom justice in their situations. May the truth be exposed and decisions be made in the best interest of the children.

So many children become trapped in the custody battles that rage today. Unfortunately, many of these children get put back into the hands of those who abuse them. What many do not realize is that narcissistic individuals are pathological liars which makes it very difficult to tell their truth from their lies… which enable these individuals to deceive others and maintain control of their victims… legally. I pray that all lies and manipulations will be exposed and Truth will prevail.

The love of a family…
is so very dear…
but when one “breaks”…
the response for many is fear.
For fear of the unknown…
is so very strong…
but when parents split…
where do the children belong? Continue reading

“Poisonous Pets” or GOD: Who Do You Want To Hold Onto

I had this thought this weekend and I just want to share…

Living with a sociopath or narcissist is like getting a daily dose of venom from a “poisonous pet”. We love our “pet” but it’s venom slowly destroys us. In fact, we don’t even realize that we are getting “bit” or “poisoned” because the pain becomes part of us and acceptable… especially if we have grown up with such poisonous people.  Continue reading

“Note to Self”~~ Red Flags of Abuse

So many of us who have been victims of abuse look back upon our lives and realize all of the warning signs that we ignored over the years… even from the beginning. The red flags were there… but we ignored them or believed the deception. And as I thought back over some of the early warning signs in my life recently, the thoughts came to me with the words “note to self”. You see, we have to be aware of the signs and never fall victim to them again. Here are a few of my “notes to self”. Continue reading