The Monster Within…

The Monster Within…

Loving and kind exterior,
hiding the true interior.
Deceiving the innocent women,
but hiding the MONSTER within!
That monster hides silent,
till a trigger turns it violent.
Simple as it seems,
one word can turn it mean.
But no one would know,
for its violent head won’t show,
till it’s victim is alone,
then the true monster is shown.
But who would believe,
when most are deceived?
For the monster goes back to hide,
hiding the violent part inside.
Only the angry words remain,
making his victim feel insane.
Fearing the day he looses control,
and shows that monster in his soul.
And that day becomes more frequent,
as he can’t keep hiding his secret.
But only his victim knows,
for behind closed doors it shows.
So whether stranger or marital rape,
its still a terrifying fate.
Experiencing abuse again and again,
for that monster resides within.

Many people do not understand how victims become trapped in these abusive situations. I can tell you that the verbal and emotional abuse is so subtle at first that victims do not realize   that they are getting conditioned to accept the later abuses. If these abusive and violent tendencies showed up earlier in the relationship, most victims would be breaking off the relationship. It is only after they are deep in the relationship that “The Monster Within” truly shows it’s violent head. Many do not believe in marital rape, but it is very damaging to its victims because they have trusted these spouses who suddenly become violent. All of these abuses escalate as the abuser gets more frequent in his  violence as the cycle of abuse continues from honeymoon phase to tension building phase and then acute battering phase again. These victims get trapped in this cycle when the monster within apologizes and goes back into hiding.

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Domestic Violence Day 17: Marital Rape or Spousal Rape.

Domestic Violence Day 16: RAPE.

Cycle-of-Abuse

Photo by safesheltertera.org

16 thoughts on “The Monster Within…

  1. Just the photo made me weep and I hesitated to read on…you described this monster so perfectly…it’s a snake…a charming, sneaky snake and the flute rolled into one mesmerizing his victim with his charm, singing the tune of compliments at the start…I feel a poem brewing…you’ve inspired me to spread this more…Lovely poem, nicely done. Thank you, Namaste

    • The snake and the flute… Yes, you got it. Charm and venom all wrapped up into one with a cute bow for show. So sad but true. So many are deceived by the abusers charm and his cunningly ways turn these against his victim. Thanks for your encouraging words of support. I am glad that you liked it and look forward to reading yours.. Many blessings to you!!

  2. When we are in an abusive rekationship, there’s nothing more comforting and exciting than the abusers charm with promises of change….”maybe this time, it’ll be different”

    • That is exactly right. That is how so many of us gets trapped in that cycle of abuse…always hoping that they will change and no more violence will occur. Thanks for your supportive comments…

  3. Thank you for this insightful poem, I feel we forget how easily people can become hypnotized and lulled into accepting the unacceptable. The man I loved was not physically violent, but his venomous snake would risk up verbally, hissing poison as poisoned words against others, and finally towards me. For me it was his ego fighting a battle to keep real closeness out…He has a perfectly polished public image and after we split began the self preservation campaign by labelling me controlling and hostile to others and then maligning my health and getting others to join in with him in finding fault with me….another form of abuse….abuse of power….and you do begin to wonder if you are sane…but sometimes we just have to trust truth always rises and hopefully the world is waking up to power games and the chaos and disruption they cause…. Love always prevails in the end. Blessings to us all…

    • Thanks Robyn! I totally understand that polished public image and then turning everything around to blame the victim. It happened to me too. He had everyone thinking that I was the crazy one. And yes, the eyes of the world need to open to that deceptive spirit in these abusers and many others in power who abuse the power that they have. Many blessings to you, my friend!

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