Message to Teens: Kindness and Respect is What You Should Expect

For Teen Dating Violence Awareness…
there is something that I want to share.
Though you teens think we don’t understand…
I can promise you that many of us have been there.
Being bullied and harassed…
almost everyday of my life,
Brought feelings of loneliness and unworthiness…
and acceptance of a life of strife.
I was bullied at home and school…
so what more was I to expect.
I just wanted someone to love me…
with a little kindness and respect.
I prayed for love…
and looked in all the wrong places…
Then I met a guy…
but he has a mask of many faces.
He was so nice at first…
and I thought he was the greatest guy.
But many years later…
I found out it was all a lie.
He was a liar and deceiver…
a master of control.
But before I knew it…
he had control of my soul.
He was angry and abusive…
with criticisms galore.
But I was too weak and broken…
to walk out the door.
Remember, abuse is progressive,
increasing with time.
And even though I saw clues,
I chose to ignore the warning signs.
Planning our future together…
we planned to be man and wife.
I was expecting love and joy…
definitely not an abusive life.
So these warning signs are real…
Dating violence leads to domestic violence…
So don’t tolerate signs of abuse…
and please don’t accept it in silence.
Find someone to talk to…
abuse is not something to accept.
We should all be treated lovingly,
with kindness and respect.

© Secret Angel and The Abuse Expose’ with Secret Angel, 2014.

Teens and young adults, please don’t make the mistakes that many of us adults have made. Please speak to your friends, parents, teachers or counselors if you have questions or need help. Or contact Love is Respect.org at :

7 thoughts on “Message to Teens: Kindness and Respect is What You Should Expect

  1. I sat one day thinking as a Christian, Secret A, what would Eternity be like in Hell and would I want anyone to go there were there is No God, No Love, No goodness No kindness and No Hope that there ever will be and I knew I did not want this for anyone not even those who have hurt me greatly and so I prayed for everyone including those who hated me and had done what was evil to me, that ALL those in darkness would see God’s reality so clearly that they could not deny He was real.

    Of course they still have free will, God will not force them to Love Him and so in Loving Him, really Love others but at least they will know He Loves them because He is Love, that is His reality that I prayed they would see. I found that the Peace I had in praying this way was so great and I also had God’s deep inner Joy overflowing, all the bondage of bitterness and resentment was gone.

    Christian Love Always from both of us – Anne.

    • Amen!! I pray that these young people will never make the mistakes that so many of us have in getting into abusive relationships and not having a personal relationship with God to guide us. I really appreciate your support. God bless you, my sister!

    • That is so true. I just pray that these young ones will not fall into the same path of brokenness that many of us have over the years. Abuse is always wrong…and never easy to get out of the cycle once you are in it. It’s best to avoid it from the beginning. Thanks for your support. God bless you!!

  2. Your writing is very good. Women, young women, young ladies, girls, etc.,, need to consider the fact that they don’t owe that new fellow in their life anything. Dates can create horrible consequences. A date should be something that is carefully considered. Remember this. When you are asked to go out with a guy, you will be alone with him in his car, and possibly many other places. There are things that we have to do in life, and things that we don’t have to do. We need to make clear distinctions on what is necessary and what is not. Your life could depend on it…. My sister, please keep up the good work. God is with you. Pastor/Equipping Saints, Philippians 3:10.

    • Thank you so much for your encouragement. So many young girls make the same mistake “looking for love” but find lust and a mess of problems. I pray that God will raise up a generation of teens that carry His Torch and be the light to lead many of these youth out of darkness. Thanks again and many blessings to you my brother…

  3. Pingback: Message to Teens: Kindness and Respect is What You Should Expect | Madison Elizabeth Baylis

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